Talk to Your Partner
Talk to your partner – these words seem like simple enough advice, but they can feel almost impossible to follow. When it comes to matters regarding erectile dysfunction, some of us may feel more comfortable talking to a complete stranger, say our Über driver, rather than our own partner. It is only normal to feel a bit awkward and a bit embarrassed to talk about such an important aspect of our male identity.
Talking It Out Matters
For us men, our performance in the bedroom is a matter of personal pride. And when we fail to attain the holy grail of a hard erection, we tend to reach for magical pills and fantasy treatments. Rather than suffer in self-inflicted shame, all you need to do is reach out to your partner. Talking it out could work better than instant medication because the performance issue you experience may just be a temporary, stress-related matter and not a long-standing medical one.
The other benefit of talking it out is that you realize you are not all alone when it comes to ED. You have a loving partner right by your side to help you through it.
How To Talk To Your Partner
Remember the first time you went to the neighbourhood pool and saw the large, Olympic-size tub of water? You were probably too afraid to step into it. Talking about matters related to ED can feel a bit like that. Not to worry, though. We have an easy, step-by-step guide that you can follow to reclaim your true, hard manhood:
Step 1 – Breaking The Ice Matters
As with most things in life, the first step is usually the hardest. Once you begin the discussion with your partner, everything else will feel a lot easier. How do you then take the first step? You could begin by saying how much you trust and respect your partner, and then gently broach the subject of your performance issue. Take your time, don’t feel pressured to rush into the main issue straightaway. It may be a good idea to rehearse your opening before you speak to your partner, maybe even inject some humour to lighten the mood.
Step 2 – Details Matter
Now that you have taken the courageous first step, don’t get in and get out of the conversation like an Olympic diver. It is important to tell your partner as many details as you can. Start with how you have been feeling at work, the stress and anxiety levels in your life, whether you feel additional pressure when you are intimate with them. The goal here is to have an open conversation so that the two of you can gain a better understanding of the issue and work out a solution together. The keyword being together.
Step 3 – Transparency Matters
Don’t give in to the temptation of making excuses: Some may blame their partners for being the cause of the problem. While it may feel like a quick and easy solution, it will not solve anything in the long run. Your erection begins and ends with you. In other words, you are in control of your condition. When you tell your partner that you are ready to take better care of your sexual wellness, it sends a positive signal that you are a responsible part of the relationship.
Step 4 – Two-way Conversation Matters
You may be the one suffering from ED, but it almost always takes a toll on your partner too. Once you have finished your piece, do encourage your partner to share how that feels too. The two-way street of communication makes it easier for you to gain perspective on ED – which can feel like a bigger problem than it usually is. Listening to what your partner has to say can help both of you find a practical solution too.
Step 5 – Partnership Matters
It is always a good idea to discuss with your partner what they can do to help you regain your sexual mojo. By requesting their participation, you make a statement of how important they truly are in your life. Their support and encouragement go a long way in minimizing the mental scars caused by ED. Together, the two of you can find a healthier, happier route to a full erection.
Taking It Easy Matters
ED can often feel like a supervillain that you need superpowers to fight. The truth is that it is no more than a minion that can be treated with proper counseling and proper medical care. There is also a good chance that what you may be experiencing is just a temporary side effect of the stressful life that you lead. Take a break, take a breather, and talk it out with your partner. If it indeed turns out to be a more serious condition, then do consult a medical expert.