Slow Sex: Benefits, PRO Tips, How to Do It According to a Sexologist

Sex can be of many kinds and types like oil sex, oral sex and anal sex. When performed correctly, sex is exactly what you make it and you can make it brilliant. One such type of sex is slow sex. In today's piece, discover what it is, its types, benefits and what women like!

What is Slow Sex?

Slow sex is the act of letting sex happen rather than making it happen. Focus on letting go of the entire situation and give yourself the liberty to enjoy whatever comes your way. You will be surprised as to how sensational this form of sex can be.

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How to Have Slow Sex?

Slowing down need not always be bad. Slowing down while sex is equally fun and can result in multiple orgasms. This requires overcoming your muscle memory to go fast and to go rather as slowly as possible.

The first time when you try slow sex, you may find yourself confused with what your body wishes to do as compared to what your mind is telling you. Here is a quick guide on how to have slow sex with your partner.

Prolonged Foreplay

Sex does not begin from the time you enter your partner’s vagina. It begins right from the time you decide to get intimate with your partner. Rushing to penetrate can make it a short experience for both.

Instead, focus on slowing your foreplay and enjoying the moment. Do not rush to penetrate right away. Double the time of your foreplay and indulge in body touching. Give your partner a sensual massage or extra stimulation.

Focus on Fantasising

Good sex comes from staying calm and in the moment. Your brain is the best sex organ that you have. Focus on creating a fantasy with your partner and enjoy the pleasurable orgasm between the two of you.

Enjoy the experience with your partner, and don’t just aim at performing well. Your experience matters more than your performance.

Titillate your Senses

Sex with your partner is not just touching. Foreplay involves making use of all your senses to make it pleasurable for both partners. Pay attention to your partner's wants and likes, and ensure that both of you are engaged in the act.

Make it erotic and pleasure each other with sounds, smell, visual cues, and touch. Use essential oils to enhance the mood, along with some soft music or oil massage to get into the groove.

Benefits of Slow Sex: Why Should You Try Slow Sex?

Better connection with your partner.
Tantalise each other with a gentle touch.
Get riled up with teasing and edging.
Sex that lasts longer.
Multiple orgasms.

Slow Sex PRO Tips

If you are a newbie to slow sex, then here are a few slow sex tips for you to get started.

Sensations

To be present in the moment and enjoy with your partner is critical for slow sex. Close your eyes and feel your partner’s breath and touch on you. Feel every moment of your partner’s tongue on your body and let the sensations pulsate through your body while being completely aware of it. Feel the experience deeply while enjoying it in the flow rather than waiting for the ultimate orgasmic goal.

Connections

Connect with your partner to make the most of slow sex. Connecting through your eyes is the best form of intimacy. That’s where the magic begins. Be close to your partner and look into each other’s eyes. While you look at each other, slowly start touching each other’s body to build up the arousal. Express your thoughts and desires using your eyes and build your connection with your partner. Try to maintain eye contact during the act and enjoy the mind-blowing experience.

Erogenous zones

There are many erogenous zones for your partner and yourself other than the genitals. An easy way to slow down sex is to stimulate these erogenous zones and get the heat up.

Build the path to climax slowly and steadily. Start with the hands, feet, and then move on to toes and fingers. Tease and move your way up to the thighs, neck, ears, and nipples. Arouse your partner by slowly touching these zones and building anticipation.

Is Slow Sex Better?

The rate or pace of sex is not interlinked to the amount of sexual satisfaction partners experience while performing it. The type of sex one likes is highly subjective. Couples could also prefer a combination of fast paced sex and slow, relaxed sex. Moreover, how much one enjoys sex depends upon a number of variables such as level of arousal or excitement, your partner's tastes and preferences and the overall mood.

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Do Women like Fast or Slow Sex?

Studies have shown that women would enjoy fast sex to increase the pace most of the time. But the pace doesn’t matter, and there is no black and white answer to if slow sex is better or fast. It depends on one’s choice.

All that matters is building a connection with your partner and enjoying the experience. Be present in the moment and have fun.

Summing Up Slow Sex for You

It is not that slow sex is better than fast sex or vice-versa. This is also not to say that sexual pace does not matter. Sexual pace matters but communicating with your partner about the same matters more.

References

Petra Zebroff - The Pace of Sex: Individual preferences for the frequency of Faster vs. Slower sexual behavior (Society For The Psychology of Women) https://artofconnection.org/the-pace-of-sex/